Does
The Nice Guy Syndrome Still Exist Even When
You’re Mature Dating?
Nice guys finishing last is
something that’s supposed to grow old with age. You’re supposed
to outgrow any of the tendencies you did not like in a so called nice
guy when you were younger. Part of the fun of mature dating is supposed
to be that you’re going to be appreciative of the qualities in this
man that you might’ve not valued when you were younger.
The little things you may have
took for granted like being on time, paying for dinner, opening doors,
and actually getting to know each other a little bit. But even in mature
dating guys complain that they are still treated as the nice guy, and
it hinders their progress with a woman. So I pose these solutions to
the ladies to help them evaluate what they really want as a more mature
individual.
1.) Getting rid of silly behavior
as a mature dating adult
Think about a lot of what the
so-called bad boy did to you when you were younger. He treated you like
crap, made you feel bad, and never came through when you wanted him
to. Don’t forget missing important dates and other things. This is
all silly behavior that is the product of immature little boys, and
you should be glad to date a man who has gotten over that stage of his
life. After all as a mature dating adult you don’t want to put up
with this garbage anymore, so this is all the more reason to appreciate
the nice guy, especially at a more mature age.
2.) Why do you really want
the nice guy?
Asking yourself why you really
want the nice guy will help you get a better understanding as a mature
dating adult. The nice guy may represent a lack of game playing, or
a lack of immaturity. These are all good things right. But you should
never go for the nice guy simply because you feel like you can’t do
any better and the nice guy has all the traits you want in someone who
offers security. If you are just looking for security then some other
area of your love life is going to suffer, and it is going to be at
the nice guy’s expense.
3.) Maybe you just need some
alone time
As a mature dating adult you
may just need to take a step back and be by yourself for a little while.
There is nothing wrong with this as you may have been taught to believe.
Having the ability to be by yourself will help you determine what you
really are looking for in a man, Being a nice guy doesn’t mean being
weak or some how not a man. It means being able to treat people with
respect and show them common courtesy when it’s necessary. Don’t
hold this against the nice guy as a mature dating adult.